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They said, “Raising children to grow up to be good and beloved by other is one of the success and proud of every parents”. This is as same as a women named “Yenjit Horvejkul”, the mother of “Nichkhun” (who is a Thai member of 2PM under JYP Entertainment in Korea ) and the other three. She doesn’t expect much but wishes only all of her 4 children to be good persons in the society.
To raise children to be good by the mother “Yenjit” ‘s style, she reveals to our Life&Family team at a first place that, “One’s attitude of living depends on his parents the most. Raising children has to be based on love with freedom of thinking and should let children to do things on their own. If there are many children, the important thing is to know that each of them is different. Parents must learn and understand each of their children deeply.”
“I, as a mother, love each of them equally but trust differently on them because each of them has their own style. Some are independent and don’t want me to get involved; while others might want my advice. For example, the eldest son, Nichan, wants to do everything by himself. I do not interfere with his business. However, Nichkhun is totally different from his brother. Whenever he has anything, he comes to ask me for an advice. “, the detail of how to raise children was explained.
As an advisor to her children, she adds that, parents should not lead but just suggest & guide. Whatever children decide, she and her husband respect that.
“If they want anything, they will come and ask us if this is good or not. We just explain good and bad points. Making decision is their duties. We do not interfere. As an example, when my children wanted to study aboard, I told them what good and bad things they would meet as if they went aboard. I always tell them that every steps of their life, they should not be careless. If they miss a step, they should not blame on anybody except themselves.” This is what she emphasizes to her 4 children.
One thing she always hold to herself is that “Don’t be comparative parents” because this hurts children badly and might make children depressed as a result.
“Comparison is totally wrong for parents. Even our fingers do not have equal size. So, we should understand that people are not born with the same talent. One might be good at some things. We must see those and support him completely”, the mother Yenjit said.
Not only she raises children, but also heals their unhappiness whenever they have problem.
“When they are unhappy, our duty is to support them. For example, when our children went aboard for studying, we understood well that he would be lonely and had to live alone. So, we visited them when we had a chance. We also wrote letters or emails to them to be by their sides and to comfort them. It is fine whether they reply or not. We just wished them to know our love and concern on them.”
About having girlfriends, she tries to be a good example for her children so that they will look for women who are ready to be a good mother in the future. A good mother should have responsibility, forgiveness, adaptability. They should not see only beauty and cuteness because they will have their own child. If those women are not good mothers, the problems will occur.
Her husband as a father role is also very important to raise children. She said that he gives importance into music, art, and sport because it’s the activities that we can do together within family.
“My husband is very strict and made all 4 children to learn sport, music, and art on Saturday or Sunday. Children learnt these things because he wanted them to do something useful on their free time and to stay healthy physically and mentally.”, she told about her husband’s role.
Even though nowadays her second son; who is a Thai artist who is popular in Korea; makes her proud, she still concerns that he will lost his identity with fame and popularity.
“What I am afraid and concern is that he might forget he is just a human as same as everybody. So, she always tell Khun that, he is a person who may receive better chance than others but it is not his chance to look down on others at the same time.”, This is what she always says to her son.
So, there is nothing that makes parents proud and happy rather than seeing their children grow to be good and beloved by everybody. Moreover, it does not exaggerate to say that the success of children today is from the detail of raising them by their mother.
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